Identity. What defines you?
Since I can remember my mom has given my brothers and I the best that she can provide. Whether that be clothes, furniture, towels, books, cooking materials, anything that she sees a good deal on she gets it for us, because, “Hey when you see a good deal you gotta take it right?”
But, what if that ‘good deal’ really isn’t as good as we think it is? Luckily, my mother knows her stuff and can spot really great products, but maybe most of the U.S. population… can’t.
Now, I’m not saying I know all about clothing and fashion, but in the documentary, The Minimalists it discussed this very article Why are H&M, Walmart Destroying Their Clothing Instead of Giving Them To Charity? This discusses how the companies are taking clothes only after a week on the floor and slashing them so you continually feel like you are out of style. Instead of having 2 or 4 fashion seasons like our grandmother’s generation, we have 52 seasons. One for each week. Perfectly great clothing products are costing less than rice and beans!
This has personally affected my family. As I mentioned earlier, I would consider my mother very knowledgeable in the area of clothing and exclusive designs. She is a very talented interior designer, self-taught and has a successful business that she started on her own, Acorn Hook.
When the crash of 2008 hit, my mother’s business came to a halt, as did many businesses. When times got tough it was an easy decision to make – redesign the kitchen or… pay the mortgage.
Why do people feel like they need to keep up appearances? Is it our pride? Are we addicted to ‘stuff’? Or, is it that you just love someone and want to give them the best that you can? At least I know it was the latter for my mother, but for some maybe it’s all of the above.
Little business meant little money, but as a loving mom, she wanted to protect me. Her work gave her access to beautiful fabrics, and due to the fact that we have 52 fashion seasons, she was met with the challenge of providing clothing for me. She saw a problem and fixed it the best way she knew she could.
My mom started to make clothes for me.
Let’s just take a moment to look at the situation that I was in. I was a teenager in high school. Identity was everything. Everywhere you went people talked about money – mostly in a negative manner. I knew that creativity was a great outlet for my mom and I wasn’t going to stop her from giving me gifts.
Graduation was coming soon and we got to vote for class clown, teacher’s pet, and a number of other ‘awards’ … even best dressed. I didn’t win, but I was in the top ten. For a high school student whose mom made clothes for them because she didn’t have much money… I think that’s something to be proud of!
Fast forward to today. The need for more and more clothes to fit my ‘identity’ finally overwhelmed me. The psychology of needing more made me hold on to so many clothes that I had three closets at home and when I went to college I ‘reduced’ my clothing to two…
One of the main reasons Asa and I bought the house we did was because it has A LOT of storage! After moving into this house, though, I still had too many clothes and they didn’t fit into the three closets upstairs.
This is the current status of my house/clothing/dressers and closets. This is not everything either… Nope, I still have a laundry basket downstairs full of clothes. Luckily, all of these are clean. Oh, yeah. I also have clothes in the washer ready to be washed and clothes in the dryer…
Yeah… I have a lot of clothes.
THIS is what I would like for my closet/dresser to look like. Things that make me happy and organized. Items of clothing that I need and enjoy at the same time.
Hence, my venture on to reading, The Magic Art of Tidying Up by Marie Kondo. The book discusses getting rid of the unnecessary items as an event. It should only happen once for each type of item, but I’m finding this very difficult to do as a new mom…
My sweet husband has said multiple times to tell him when I need a day and he’ll take Essie off of my hands, but as time passes us by it’s becoming more and more difficult to do so. Sooooo, I’m modifying the process to fit in with the ‘mommy lifestyle’.
Each month I have chosen a day that will be dedicated to purging my clothes. The hubby has already ok’d this. 😉 I know that Rome wasn’t built in a day, so I will slowly be going through my clothes when doing laundry to get rid of the items as well. This is the only way I know that I can accomplish my dreams… and yes, less clothes is a dream!
I want to feel free from the burden of cleaning constantly, spending unnecessary money, making my family late because of outfit choices, and lack of mind space.
I have asked myself, “Should I wait to post this and give an ‘after’ photo?” My answer had to be, “No.” I knew that it would make this post look attractive, but the reality is… I’m a work in progress and so is everything in my life. It would be wrong for me to give you a post that made it seem like I had a quick fix.
Therefore, it’s only fair to give you yet another post with the updates and progress I have on this journey. Soo… yet again I thank you for coming along with me on this adventure and I hope you can remain patient ;).
Let me know if you have ever tried the Konmari Method or any other type of tidying up process! Comment how it has affected your life (good or bad)!